Here’s the full question: “How do I find a good, very rich, local entrepreneur mentor that would be willing to guide me and donate their time to help me if I commit to doing what they tell me and take them out to any restaurant they choose each time we meet? “
I found this question on one of my social networking sites, and I thought my response could be useful here, too.
I’ve coached many, many clients on this topic. Here’s my response:
“You’re going about this backwards. These entrepreneurs are being hit up right and left, and they need to protect themselves from so many people wanting something from them. You’re thinking of what you need, not what they need, and they can smell it.
If you want to proceed to get a mentor, you must be very respectful of their time and resources. Resources include time, effort, money and contacts.
Create a mentorship structure. What has worked very well for me and my clients:
Ask for three separate 20 minute conversations at their convenience, in person or over the phone, and nothing more. Generally speaking, people love to talk about themselves and share their expertise, so keep your questions to those topics. Do not ask for their contacts or money or more of their time. If they want to contribute beyond your agreement, they will. If they want to continue the relationship, they will. Don’t ask.
When the third conversation is over, thank them and ask if there’s any way you can help them. Leave the ball in their court. Make them feel good that they trusted you with their time.
And for goodness’s sake: when you ask for someone to be your mentor, allow them to say no!”
P.S. With my billionaire mentor, we agreed on one fifteen minute meeting. He ended up taking me to his business and introducing me to everyone there, and giving me priceless advice all day.
PP.S I learned this from my first coach Heidi Wall.
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