How Do You Measure Your Value and Self Worth?
How do you measure your value? Your self worth? How interesting that value and self-worth are financial terms…
I found this story in a free paper at my bakery. I’m posting this here at the wishes of the article’s author. (See his call to action at the bottom.) I don’t know the identity “well known speaker.” If you do, please post the name so we can give him credit for his genius.
“A well known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a $20 bill. In the room of 200 people, he asked, “Who would like this $20 bill?” Hands started going up.
He said, “I’m going to give this $20 to one of you, but first let me do this.” He proceeded to crumple up the $20 bill. He then asked, “Who still wants it?” Still the hands went up in the air.
“Well,” he replied, “what if I do this?” and he dropped the bill on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. He picked it up, crumpled and dirty.
“Now who still wants it?” And the hands still went up in the air. “My friends,” he said, “we have learned a valuable lesson. No matter what I do to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth $20.”
Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled and ground into the dirt by circumstances that come into our way. We feel as though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened or will happen, YOU WILL NEVER LOSE YOUR VALUE. Dirty or clean, crumpled or finely creased, you are still priceless to those who love you. The of our lives comes not in what we do or who we know, but WHO WE ARE.
If you do not pass this on, you may never know the lives it touches, the hurting hearts it speaks to, or the hope it can bring.”
Binyamin Jadidi of Ateret Israel
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Thanks for sharing this message, Morgana! You are doing wonderful work in the world spreading the money message. I don’t know the identity of the speaker, but it’s a great example. I will share it with my Financial Stress Reduction Workshop participants!
Love you and wish you many big ships unloading treasures at your docks!
Hugs,
Chellie
This article points so clearly to our value is not in what we see in us or what we look like. Our value is us and is divine.
What a brilliant metaphor! I will share this story, it’s a wonderful demonstration of our inherent value.
with gratitude,
Kate
What happens when we don’t exactly feel the love from others, but must find the love from within. It isn’t easy to do when you feel crumpled and lying on the floor. Where is the way to measure your self worth and value then? As I understand it, we shouldn’t look to others to know our value by their love. How do you cultivate self love in the darkest times?
I do like what you’ve written and hope that it helps many.
thanks,
Lucy
Hi Lucy.
Here’s one of the key reasons Financial Alchemy works so well, not just with money but with romance, health, and self love– we make the imaginary Money Honey someone whose love matters to you… for instance a handsome and romantic guy. You experience your Money Honey’s love and acknowledgment as if it’s coming from outside yourself. He loves you unconditionally, so you can experience that love for yourself.
I wish it were that simple. In a room full of people that aren’t rich, yes that bill (on paper) has the same value. Start making people do things they don’t want to do to get the $20.00 and suddenly, its value drops. I think if you’re an undesired person in the eyes of those around you, your value drops. Mostly because it sometimes comes down to what people will do to have you ( as an employee/friend/whatever) and what they’ll do to keep you. If you don’t bring anything to the table, figure out a way to and your worth goes up. Now that that “thing” you’re bringing is…..too subjective . I would rather know that my worth is low and figure out ways to change it rather then believe a beautiful lie…..
thank you for this peice of writing, before now i wake every money thinking of my mistakes and how i have lost my value and selfworth through them, but with this inspiring story, i believe i am who i think i am. Thanks once again.
You’re very welcome, Mary!
Nice story about a 20 Dollar Bill; however, it does not explain how I can measure my self worth. An amount of money is just that. An amount of money! I have been to “feel good” speeches before. Where the main speaker has used the same technique. Afterward, I watched as individuals spent time with others discusing ‘how wonderful’ the session was and ‘ how they got so much frim it’; Really what did they actually get? They were worth $20?
How does a person measure their self worth? Not what someone other than me thinks I am worth!
All good points, Tammy. Honestly, I don’t think our value or our worth has anything to do with dollars except that dollars can mirror what we feel on the inside, regarding our worth, our deserving-ness, and how appreciated we feel in the world. REAL self-worth is 100% about our relationship with ourself, and by projection, our relationship with life. That’s what my work is really about: our relationship with self and life. Money is, at its essence, a cultural metaphor for all our stickiest issues around love, safety, and worth.
Morgana;
So self- worth (value) is subjective and therefore, there is no way to measure it. Am I correct in this thought or have I missunderstood your reply?
Tammy
Actually, worth and value are always subjective. They are 100% human constructs. Yes, we can and do measure value every day, with our wallets, with our play lists, with our guest lists, with our attention and affection. It’s all made up.
Morgana;
Thank you for your reply, honesty, and speed.
Tammy