Turn Struggle into Success. Today I share candidly about the gifts of failure, and how to use them for success, wealth, and helping others.

This is what I say to my clients is all the time. All of those years of failing and struggling in some area of life is Research and Development. Whatever your big challenge has been, whether it’s relationship or health or money or all of them, your failure makes you an expert in that area of the human experience, so that when you come out of it you know something really valuable that can help other people.

I would not have what I teach today if I had not been such a spectacular financial failure. I was doing everybody’s programs. It didn’t whether it was taking classes in business building and marketing, or creating a website or getting a millionaire mindset, doing a vision board, and meditating with a green candle and having a great attitude… so what!  I was still making $100 a month, even though I had a coach certification, I had testimonials, and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah!

The gift of all of those years in such a hard and dark and horrible place (that I really want to spare other people) is that I got to understand a certain problem so well–from direct experience–that I’ve become world famous now as the solution to that problem: that problem of repelling money, protecting ourselves from money, having a bad relationship with money, money being the enemy instead of the partner, financial limitation, and all of the issues of worthiness and love and safety, and all of the underlying issues behind it.  I only know this stuff so well because I lived it for a long time before I found my solution.

After I had changed my own relationship with money I was getting instant results (four new clients paying me twice what I had ever charged before, the very next day), and it just kept spiraling and spiraling and spiraling.

Since then I’ve coached thousands of people. The failures that I had, that research and development, taught me how to know and respect their pain, not to judge them. Instead I can say, “I get it. That’s horrible. I really, really know what you’re talking about, and let’s try this!”

The gift of pain is that it teaches us humility and empathy and respect for the pain of others.  There can be an arrogance with happiness.  We can’t comprehend (or we blame) people who are in a bad spot.  But when you’ve been in that bad spot yourself, you look at other people with different eyes, and a different caring, and a different respect, and a different ability to help.

MORGANA RAE is an internationally acclaimed life coach, author, and professional speaker, who is regarded as the world’s top Relationship with Money coach. Morgana’s groundbreaking program for attracting wealth has featured her on ABC-TV, PBS, NPR, United Press International and The Wall Street Journal online. Learn how to become a Money Magnet with her FREE 4-part video gift series. Fill out your name and email at the top of the page. (We promise not to share your info!)