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Love Magnet Magic

I’ve been getting pretty annoyed with this whole campaign to aim low in love. If you aim for less than you want, you just might get it, and that’s not a good thing…

There’s nothing more attractive to what you want, especially in realms of romance and love, than feeling good about yourself. And nothing kills your sense of self worth faster than settling for what doesn’t make you happy.

There’s a nasty little trend going around the love advice community, telling women (and men) that they should lower their standards, that they’re wrong to hold out for that special someone they admire, respect, and desire. Can you imagine? In fact there’s a best selling book out there that argues women should settle for whoever will take them. This is a perfect formula for misery. (No wonder there are so many unhappy marriages out there!)

Let’s not even go there. Before you step out on your first date, we want to supercharge your love magnet with easy, authentic, happy self-confidence. Nothing to prove and nothing to buy, and you’ll feel the difference immediately. Here’s the secret:

When clients are stuck and not manifesting their desires, I have them take a look at what they’re tolerating in their lives. What do they put up with that drains their energy? Where are they settling?

We all have tolerations: those people, things, or habits that drain our energy, dim our life enjoyment. It could be a messy desk, or a critical relative, or not taking care of your health. We may have become so accustomed to certain tolerations that we feel that’s just the way life is. We don’t think we have a choice. We feel powerless, and that sense of powerlessness bleeds into other areas of our lives.

Every time you settle, you are telling the universe that “this is good enough,” and you are telling yourself, “I don’t deserve better.” If that’s your message, of course you’ll keep getting more of the same! When you’re life is full of settling, you aren’t leaving room for what you really want, especially in love.

Turning this around is easy. Make a list of what you’re tolerating: the things in your life that don’t make you happy. Then pick out ONE toleration to tackle. I recommend starting with the smallest. A little goes a long way. The smallest changes build your energy and confidence, and give you a platform for the next change.

Make it EASY. Try giving old clothes away to Good Will. Or clearing your desk. Or changing lightbulb. Or spending less time with a critical friend. When you clear something up in one area of your life, you’ve created energetic space that will impact the rest of your life. My clients have won awards, lost weight, received money out of the blue, attracted new business and found soul mates when they stopped settling in other areas of their lives. When in doubt, clean your house. It’s all connected.

Saying no to what no longer serves changes how you show up on your dates. You’ll notice that your standards rise naturally, and not from a place of neediness. You’ll find yourself attracting people who want to live up to your desires.

You’ll also catch “red flags” faster and find it easier to let go of the wrong guys quickly.

Hold out for what you really want, in love and in life. You train the universe how to treat you by how you treat yourself. You don’t want to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince. Treat yourself like a queen so you can magnetize your king.


  1. June 2, 2010 at 8:28 am

    Morgana, this is great stuff! Great reminder that we don’t have to settle — we do deserve the best!

  2. Sue
    June 11, 2010 at 2:08 pm

    Love this, Morgana. Thank you so much. Unbelievable how many tolerations are in my life. New word and one I hope to be using a whole lot less!

  3. Eva
    June 22, 2010 at 4:37 am

    Great article, Morgana. I’m thrilled to be living this. When I was a teenager, I was a Harlequin Romance reader and determined that it’s better to be alone rather than settle for someone “good enough” because it would be just my luck to meet Mr. Right the week after I got married. *grin* At the ripe old age of 31, I met Mr. Right and, 13 years later, I’m appreciative every single day that the Universe knew the essence of what I wanted and delivered him to me as soon as I unwittingly shed my resistance.

    Now, I’m just trying to figure out how to apply the formula to other tolerations in my life!

  4. June 28, 2010 at 12:19 pm

    An aspect of my life just got intolerable. Time to make a change! Thanks, Morgana, for you encouragement.

  5. July 11, 2010 at 2:35 pm

    I wrote a list of almost everything I wanted and asked for “what else is possible?”… my darling is everything I asked for AND things I didn’t ask for but really desired (like someone who loves boating), thinking it was ‘too much’ for one person to deliver… I’m here to say everything is possible and then some… you just need to follow the energy – ask big and you’ll receive the bliss and the perfect vibrational compatibility!!!

  6. August 16, 2010 at 3:38 pm

    What an important reminder to stop putting up with tolerations and settling for what may be “good enough”. I know when I start getting aggrivated easier it’s time to put a stop to some of those things I let slip, like the messy desk, the dishes undone along with other items. Once I get “that” taken care of, my energy is so much calmer and I can move back into the place of joy and knowing that I do deserve what I desire – not just what might be “good enough” for the time being.

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