VIDEO: For when you’re in a dark place…
I noticed I was having the same conversation with a couple of clients who were going through a dark place, and thought I should share this information with anyone who’s feeling the dark of winter, heartbreak or discouragement blues. This may surprise you and hearten you.
Please post comments, experiences, and insights below. And if you have a friend who’s in a dark place today, please send your friend here. Namaste.
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“The Guest House” by Rumi, over 700 years ago…
This being human is a guest house
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.
Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.
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Thanks for sharing this Morgana! Your message is so important. I was recently in that very place where nothing I did seemed to take me out of the horrible hole I was in. I tried everything I could to get out of it, to feel better, to find ground and see sky again only to sink deeper. The past kept showing up -one big hurt right after another, my old patterns, all that I struggled so hard to overcome. Only when I finally threw up my hands and completely surrendered was I able to see light again and feel better.
You’re welcome, Crystal. Every time it comes around we get more information. I believe we came here to earth to study some of those “old patterns” and each time they come back, we go for a more advanced degree. Then we share our wisdom with others. This is the story of the Goddess Persephone who returns to the underworld every year during winter to guide her kingdom below.
So very interesting you used the story of the Goddess of Persephone! She was my favourite mythology character and winter is my most challenging seasons where I experience the dark on the deepest levels. Thanks for sharing and letting me know that this will heal itself! Every time I get better I realized the importance of going through this process..nevertheless it takes everything to hold me together! So glad to be able to share this! Namaste
Morgana- thank you so much. It is very reassuring to hear that this predictable, re-occuring event in my life isn’t “a block” but a process. You described what’s going on with me right now to a tee. I too, immediately fall into the trap of ‘I’m doing everything wrong, and it’s bad I’m not happy’ and I really appreciate hearing your perspective on that. Lack of control is a hard thing to accept, but I can see how these ‘healing crises’ I’ve heard them called, can really be what’s necessary. Again, thank you. I’ll gracefully bow out, and call it a beach day.
You’re welcome Angie. “Beach day” is a good reframe. I also received a comment on YouTube calling it a “flu day” for your soul.
Hi Morgana,
Thank you for this video and for your follow-up comment that someone referred to this “dark place” as “flu day for your soul”. That was just what I needed to hear because I have been fighting a literal flu on and off for four months now and have realized that it is somehow a “spiritual” journey as well as a physical one. My doctor can’t seem to find anything else wrong that is causing the flu symptoms and as you can imagine, I am frustrated and feeling uneasy about having the necessary health to earn money, and take care of myself and my life.
Last week one of my best friends blew up at me because I am not living my life the way she thinks I should (she voiced that she is frustrated that i don’t take anti-depressants). She said we should should take a “breather”, but then texted me the next day and said she was available for coffee on the weekend. She mentioned that she was frustrated with herself and not me, but did not apologize for the hurtful things she had written me the day before, or address the “breather”. That type of back and forth makes me feel uncomfortable. I prayed and I believe that God helped me see ways in which I contribute to my deepest wound re-occurring, which is abandonment. Meaning that when I do things that I don’t really want to do (people please), it contributes to experiencing abandonment. Of course, you can’t truly be abandoned as an adult, but the idea is the same. During my prayer I remembered that she and I had had a different kind of relationship before in which I was helping her work through a 12 step program as a “sponsor”, and she fired me from that role two times before we became friends and had this odd blowout. The questions that are coming up for me now are: How am I not living my fullest life? How am I people-pleasing instead of taking care of my own self and body? Why are there parts of me that don’t feel “good enough”? Why am I embarrassed to be me? I am getting answers to some of these important questions and praying in this moment, for that “release” you mentioned into a new, fuller, more authentic life. Again, thank you for video and all that you do. Love, R
Dear Morgana:
This video is coming at the right time. I’ve been homeless for a while and right now I can feel and observe old patterns, old demons surfacing. If I wasn’t able to visit and talk to horses every day, I would have a difficult time coping. And yet, I also know that this, too, is another step in my journey – and this healing crisis will pass. For it is a healing crisis – like a fever that has been burning out old infections, old hurts. It will break and I feel it will break soon.
Thank you for this comforting synchronicity.
All Love
Padme A’Tea
You’re welcome Padme. You’re very wise to find such a great resource in horses.
Thank you, Morgana. I recognise this phenomenon of the dark place. It can be very difficult not to struggle and berate oneself in that place. Yet, time is a true healer. And the subconscious works in mysterious ways during crises. Just as you say, “stop, take a breath, know where you are, know that it has a positive healthy purpose, and know that IT WILL RELEASE ITSELF.” It never ceases to amaze me how struggling creates more suffering, and letting go/accepting aids in the healing process. Thank you for your reassuring words and manner.
You’re very welcome Belinda. 🙂
Morgana, Beautiful video. Being in the last Mercury Retrograde of 2010 I wonder how many of us were sent into a “realm” and asked to review our inner dialogue one more time…
Love this and love that we can reframe now and know it has a beginning, middle and end. And also the importance of breathing through it to help it flow through!!!
If ever there was a time to wallow and re-evaluate, this is it! Thanks for posting Kevra!
Thank you so much Morgana,
Today this was truly what i need to hear.
You made me laugh.Believe me it is not only a American thing to beat yourself up:)
Thank you again for helping me to let go and trust.
sincerely
Nurgul
You’re welcome Nurgul! Thank you for bringing a global perspective!
This resonates with me very much. I’m grateful to the impulse that led me to view your post. I don’t typically. While I don’t feel as though I’m in a pit of blackness, situations are reverting to old patterns and negative thoughts are rising again. This reaffirms other “messages” I’ve been receiving that also say “stop; let go; relax; release — all wll be well.” Thank you.
I’m so glad you followed your impulse, Kathy!
Thank you, so much for this, Morgana! You just described perfectly where I’ve been for the last couple of weeks – feeling trapped in old patterns and paradigms and living in fear that despite all of my efforts to change over the last several years it’s been an act in futility; and I’m “destined” to live the life I’m living now and should stop expecting it to change.
You gave me hope this afternoon! I thank you, and love you.
Gary.
You’re welcome Gary. See how many people are going through the same thing?
Morgana,
Thank you SO MUCH for this timely reminder!
I just had a “realm” experience earlier this week — great to remember that it’s natural, it’s healthy and it will pass if I simply let myself feel what I am feeling and stop striving to “stay positive” when that isn’t how I feel.
It’s about being REAL with ourselves, letting ourselves have our feelings without judgement. As soon as I let myself feel my feelings honestly, then they get released. From breakdown comes breakthrough.
Thank you!
~Victoria
Morgana,
Thank you SO MUCH for this timely reminder!
I was experiencing a “realm” earlier this week. It’s so important to remember that it’s natural, it’s healthy and when I surrender– when I let myself FEEL what I am FEELING rather than continually striving to “stay positive” — that’s when the breakthrough happens.
Thank you!
~Victoria
Brava Victoria! You’re welcome. 🙂
Wow. Your timing is spot on – as always! I just spent the past hour working on my Financial Alchemy workbook for 2011. Just doing that always restores my hope at the end of the year, when the nights are so dark and long – and this year Mercury is retrograde to boot! It’s a great time to REview and REcommit. One of my goals was to do one calligraphy art piece a quarter just for ME – in the first quarter personal goals I wrote “one ME art piece” and decided that was too vague, I needed to pick a particular piece and start the idea incubation process. What words did I choose? “The Guest House.” Then I checked e-mails and found this. I have goosebumps. To echo Padme, thank you for this comforting synchronicity!
Oh Alesia! What a great story. I may share it in my ezine.
Morgana, it’s been a massive relief to hear these words from a total “stranger”. I think sometimes when we get comfort from our friends we think they’re just rehearsing the “friend” script but to hear it so accurately from someone I don’t know is super-comforting. It’s been a solid two months of relapses into some ugly personal stuff, both from chapters in my past and moments in the present I keep turning into repeats of the old. WATCHING myself do it and not doing anything to stop it, it’s like being on some awful autopilot. I was crying to my husband not long ago saying the same thing too — that I’d done so much over the years and in moments it’s just been crumbling around me and my relationship with my new money has been ice cold. In the last few days — hours, even — I have been getting the “surrender” vibe. I’ve been seeing it for a while but not GETTING it, and I’m starting to get it, and your vid has brought it closer. It’s such an uglyass word to we independent women especially. Surrender. But I’ll do it, trusting in the dark that it will release itself. Judging by the insane nightmares I’ve been having I just hope my subconscious just has the vacuum cleaner out hehe. Much love to you and again, thanks for all you do. Celeste
I’m in a dark place, all right. And I know I made it, I am responsible for each decision that brought me here, which for the first time seems to make no difference at all. I’m about to either lose my house or give up on it, I have debts over my head, and even though I know that where I want to be is not here in this house doing what I am doing, everything I am doing to make money at this time brings in so little that I can’t make it on what is coming in. I feel like I am blocking myself but don’t know what to do to get unblocked. I can’t even say what the shape, color or size of the block is. I’m holding myself back in some way, but don’t know why or how – if that even matters. I keep wondering how far down I have to go to get to where I need to be to transform this ‘thing’ in me.
At the same time, several months ago I had a transformation about the power in my emotions, that I had denied myself all my life. At the bottom of a pit, crying and asking God what use it was to cry even, something happened. I accepted my feelings and emotions, and they became a part of my power. A knot in my stomach, in my chakras, disappeared. And as I accepted that I was OK having my emotions, my ability to be with people transformed. I am not afraid of them now. It is OK to play!
I hate and resist being in this place of ‘nothing works, and I am in despair and afraid that if I give up, I will just be a failure – by my own judgment, and I believe, by others around me as well. It is a shame to me.’ I know what you are sharing about surrender. I have seen some friends I have been with in a seminar go through an exercise designed to support you in being present, and they made it look easy. When it was my turn, it was very hard. When I asked my friends who made it appear to be easy, they said it was not, which was a revelation.
So thank you for the sharing. I am indeed stuck in that dark place and feel like my world is about to fall in on me. I can not say that I have any hope as I have been losing that in the process of this ‘thing’ that I can’t beat, apparently. Perhaps that is just what needs to happen. I can not even begin to guess what is on the other side of this, if that is even an appropriate way to describe it.
Namaste.
Namaste Michael. A friend of mine who has been on this trip several times says that he now seeks to sink to the bottom as quickly as possible, instead of fighting and floundering and thrashing his way down.
I cut and pasted the following paragraph from a post by Michael dated 12/29/2010. Every word he wrote fits my life today in February 2014. Forgive me Michael but I hope you don’t mind that I am including your passionate, frightened words because they could be my words and mirror my life today just over 4 years after you wrote this. I am walking in your path today. Your words called out to me. Michael I pray that all has worked out for you.
” I’m in a dark place, all right. And I know I made it, I am responsible for each decision that brought me here, which for the first time seems to make no difference at all. I’m about to either lose my house or give up on it, I have debts over my head, and even though I know that where I want to be is not here in this house doing what I am doing, everything I am doing to make money at this time brings in so little that I can’t make it on what is coming in. I feel like I am blocking myself but don’t know what to do to get unblocked. I can’t even say what the shape, color or size of the block is. I’m holding myself back in some way, but don’t know why or how – if that even matters.”
Michael when I read your post I could hardly breath. Your hopefully OLD story is the story I am living here in February 2014. I am scared to death and feel so much shame because this too was my own doing. My husband had serious medical problems starting 2009…and over time they got worse. By early 2013 he had been in and out of the hospital, in E.R. and in a nursing home facility for rehab (physical therapy) so he could walk again after 2 bouts of Guilliane Barre which takes away the ability to walk. I had to become his medical advocate. I was working tons of hours, had a house to maintain, pets to care for and I tried to spend as much time as possible with him….. I totally lost me!! 3 weeks into January 2013 I was assigned a new job at work…under normal circumstances I would have braced my shoulders and tackled it. Instead I had a meltdown and walked away from the job after 3 weeks.
Fast forward to February 2014…My husband has been home for months and I am his caregiver. I can’t leave him alone for too long at a time. I love my guy and love that I can help him. However we are at a place that is so scary. I have funds to pay all of our bills, mortgage this month. Next month….. not so good. I am scared to death and have never been so scared. I think the worst thing about all of this is that I have disappointed my husband. He has always counted on me to handle our finances, which I have always done well and enjoyed in some weird way… but now I am lost. God bless you Michael and all the others who have posted their story. Thanks Morgana for a place that I could write words that I haven’t even wanted to think about let alone share.
Morgana I love how you’ve taken something from Rumi and brought it into the future. It seems many of our ways of being are universal. Great work and thanks for sharing this on such a perfect scale. R
My pleasure, Richard. Thank you for posting.
Thank You, Morgana. I certanly am familiar with that Dark place and feeling that it’s endless. You have given me an uplift. Thank you all that you share with us.
You’re very welcome Brenda!
It is interesting as I was in this same place 2 weeks ago and have seen a lot of this ‘going around’. It is spreading almost like the flu this winter. For me it seems related to Christmas and New Years. The ending and rebirthing process of the Christ child and the starting of the New Year. Thanks for adding that reassurance so many of us need when we are in that place. You are like the rescue worker at the top of the deep hole dropping down a rope ladder, a flash light and a sandwich. Happy New Year!
This short clip hit the nail on the head for me. I’ve been massively stressed at work , feeling like I’m not living my true potential, and feeling that life is hard and tough, and that things are never going to change.
I’m in that pit right now and angry fo the powers. I’m in a funk and I feel like this is the rest of my life. How do you just surrender to this and do nothing, in the hope that it may change.
Thanks so much Morgana – healing words indeed
You’re welcome, Simon!
Morgana,
This is _so_ awesome. ’cause yeah – beating myself up is one way I taught myself to “be responsible” – money monster fodder for sure.
Giving the pattern a name? Priceless!! Oh wow, can’t tell you how liberating this is. THANK YOU!!!
Dear Morgana: Your video has been such a RELIEF for me! I am right now, doubting about myself and all the steps I have been taking towards beautiful accomplishments in my brand new business. Not only did was your video what I needed to listen to but what I needed to understand about this seemingly negative process, which , yes, it repeats once in a while as you very well said. You ended up your great post with a poem by Rumi, my favorite poet, which brought delight and also some acknowledgement tears coming from my heart. Thank you Morgana, you are a great inspiration! Last but not least, let me say that the “obligation” to feel always OK is not just american (or North American in this case) . You see, I live in Argentina and trust me, people here have the same kind of behavioral paranoia! Much Love, Mónica
Darkness is sacred! Light is sacred! Without. Light there is no darkness! Without darkness there is no light!
Challenges are oportunities to transmute darkness into light!
Cheers and time is a healer!
I am so grateful and thankful for your words, for your support and your wonderful aura which I feel in every video you send. I am living for long such a dark situation, sometimes my strength is nearly end, but I know that something great is in the other side …… that I deserve the best and Universe is handle all for me….. All my blessings…..Have a wonderful, peaceful and lovely weekend….
Hi Morgana,
Thank you for this. I REALLY needed to hear that. I feel my dark night (big scary no-money troubles) lifting in the last day or two, but am afraid to get my hopes up just yet (ironic). Because my circumstances aren’t changing, just my perspective.
But I know for a fact that what you said is true, because I have a specific memory of a long and very dark time that lifted, literally the moment that I gave up hope (I’m a huge positive thinker, but hope is not always your friend, it turns out– sometimes it means I’m just resisting the experience I am meant to grow through). And I mean instantaneously, the second I gave up, I came out of the fog. And do you know what triggered the breakthrough? As soon as I felt myself finally giving up all hope, I heard the word “Child” as if I was being addressed by a higher power. It was silent, but very clear. I happened to be walking out on a beautiful vineyard at sunrise. And it was like my world suddenly went to color. I was mesmerized by my surroundings and all the abundance and love around me and just began to weep tears of joy and gratitude. All because of the word “child” reminding me who to be– permitting me to let go.
Thank you SO MUCH for this very encouraging and timely message. xoxo
Dear Morgana,
I wish to send you a huge hug for this video. It gave me a great insight in what is going on here in my “REALM”….I dropped into a kind of space 6 months ago when I met an international healer who heals by gazing with the masses only. I looked into his eyes on a video and my goals and plans dropped out of time and space and dissolved. As I am a very goal oriented person with deadlines since my youth, I became crazy that my deadlines went dead… It felt like my EGO was gone….This experience is still going on since that moment and some miracles happened too personal to describe here, but I am still sitting in this REALM of nothingness waking up often under a mountain of burnout asking myself, what is going on. You just now gave me the insight that this is how it dissolves itself and releases. I am having hope again, I really thought I was dying and my life results were all done. Now I am done with this REALM and the monster…I have hope again although I have no idea what my next step is…. it feels like learning to walk again on completely new feet and on a different planet somehow…love to you, Karin