Next time you catch yourself about to say, “I can’t afford it,” pause.

It’s bad magic. It feeds your money monster.

“I can’t afford it” blames money, makes money the bad guy, and takes away your power. It makes you small. It’s like fresh meat for your monster.

My friend Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit,” (great book) taught me an awesome reframe years ago, that I love to share with clients, friends, non-clients, and that I try to practice myself.

Instead of “I can’t afford it,” say, “It’s not a financial priority for me at this time.”

Feel the difference?

Even if you’re silently saying to yourself, “My financial priority this month is paying my rent!” owning it is honest and powerful. It makes you responsible. Puts you in charge. And you’re Money Honey loves it when you’re in charge!

Here’s a little mea culpa confession…

I caught myself saying “I can’t afford it” just last month. It’s so easy! Especially for us polite, people-pleaser types.

A coach I admire and respect invited me to take her program. I smiled, talked about how much I’d already spent on coaching this year, and told her I couldn’t afford it.

It was a lie! It would’ve been a pain to come up with the cash, and I did spend an awful lot on coaching this year, but the real truth is I wasn’t motivated enough.

I think I said “I can’t afford it” because I wanted her to like me. (Can anyone relate?) It was such an easy out. And it was completely out of integrity with everything I teach.

I had to come clean and tell her the truth. And you know what? I discovered that area of my life–the subject she teaches–really ISN’T a priority for me at this time! So I learned a little something about myself as well…

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P.S. Here’s a little magic for when you find that you really, really WANT something and you don’t see where the money’s going to come from…

Replace “I can’t” with “How can I?”

Replace “I am struggling” with “I am resourceful.”

I saw one of my students manifest $8,000 OVERNIGHT when she changed her language! Her language changed what she created. She awed and amazed us both.

(And now Nova Wightman is one of my licensed Financial Alchemy Master Coaches, the owner of Go Within Life Coaching, and the magical mother of baby boy Conan.)

MORGANA RAE is an internationally acclaimed life coach, author, and professional speaker, who is regarded as the world’s top Relationship with Money coach. Morgana’s groundbreaking program for attracting wealth has featured her on ABC-TV, PBS, NPR, United Press International and The Wall Street Journal online. Learn how to become a Money Magnet with her FREE 4-part video gift series. Fill out your name and email at the top of the page. (We promise not to share your info!)